Why I Deleted Your Post!


People forget that the most important part of social networking is… well… being social and networking.  How is it that someone who doesn’t interact with me – either online or off- finds it permissible to post information on my Facebook wall.  They will often promote their upcoming book release, event, or new business venture?  They have never, ever engaged with me on one single topic… ever. Yet, they have no problem asking to me like their Facebook page, support their contest or vote for their business. It’s like walking into a party, (barely) introducing yourself, then telling having that person ask you to tell everyone else in the room why their business is so great. Who would do that?

How can it be that someone who didn’t bother to take the time to ever send me so much as one single tweet, feels comfortable sending me a DM to Tweet something for them?  Well, I won’t do it.  If you do not socialize with me; I will not support your cause, event or business.  I will promptly delete your post and may potentially block you from accessing my sites all together.  Don’t tag me in the photos that I’m not actually in.  Don’t post your fliers and website information to my wall.  Oh, and PLEASE stop asking me to Tweet details about your event as part of your marketing strategy.  But instead of just fussing about what doesn’t work, let me give you an example of what does.

For over a decade, I was a part-time aerobic instructor.  For a time, I was even a personal trainer. Seven years ago I decided I didn’t want to teach anymore.  I just wanted to do my day job and not worry about coming up with new routines.  As a result… you guesed it… the pounds have started to creep on.  My muscle mass has began to decrease at an alarming rate and I’ve lost quite a bit of bone density.  I am an avid biker – clocking at least 25 miles a week – so my heart is healthy but my body is weak.  So, I’ve recommitted myself to getting back into shape.  I’ve been working out and using my favorite fitness apps to share my progression on Facebook and Twitter.

For the past month, a Facebook friend has been commenting on my posts, encouraging me and providing me with inspiration.  As a result, I started watching his Facebook posts more closely.  Come to find out… my Facebook friend, Orlando Darden Jr, is a personal trainer, has a Facebook group page and runs a FREE Bootcamp just blocks from my house.  He never once, in all this time, posted one single thing about his business or occupation.  He never tweeted me anything about what he does (he Tweets as @BodyFitDC).  But, because he’s been social… being generally supportive and interested in my progress.. engaging with me online… I found out what he does on my own.  Once I discovered he was a trainer, I joined his Bootcamp via Meetup and of course I will naturally be tweeting, blogging and doing Facebook posts about my progress and his personal training skills.  He gets free marketing and promotion… organically… without having to ask.

Remember, it’s called social networking… so go ahead… start being social… start to care about the people you interact with online.  Otherwise, at least in my case, I’m deleting your post from my wall – quick, fast, and in a hurry- and won’t be tweeting anything on your behalf.  Oh, and in an ironic twist, I will post this blog on your wall or send it to you in a Tweet as an FYI and as free promotion for my blog.  Hey, fair is fair.  I’ll “see” you online!

Welcoming in 2011!!


I LOVE this time of year!  As we start a new year I love to look back on the earlier 365 days to see what has worked, what no longer serves our higher good and what we need to improve on for the year ahead..  Every year around this time I do inventory on where I’ve been and where I’m going in the upcoming year.  I read over previous blog posts, intentions, affirmations and goals.  I look over my vision board and see what, if anything needs to be readjusted, added or taken off.  I don’t make New Year’s Eve Resolutions but what I always do is some serious housecleaning… clearing the old to make way for the new.  I follow my housecleaning up with an intention for the upcoming year that I revisit and rework throughout the 365-day cycle. In 2011 let’s focus on what we really want as we embark on this new year.  To  get us started, here are five things I will no longer waste my time on (some of them are carried over from last year… what can I say, some habits are harder than others to break) and I hope you’ll consider joining me:

  1. “Friendships” that do not serve our higher good-  We do not have time for people who will drain our energy or who do not support the highest version of ourselves.  I challenge us all to love and respect ourselves, love and respect others, and expect to be loved and respected in return.  Accept nothing less for we deserve the best.
  2. Wishing” and “regretting”– Wishing I did this or regretting I did not do that does nothing to help us build a better future and leaves us feeling powerless to change our life.  We either need to do what it is our heart is calling us to do, rework our plan, or admit some things may never be.  Reinvent yourself or let it go but leave the past in the past and live in the here and now… right here… right now.
  3. Grudges They keep us stuck in the past and drain us mentally, spiritually and over time, can even make us physically sick.  So, accept things the way they are.  That doesn’t mean we have to condone or even judge a situation in any way.  Rather, it means we realize things are as they are and we let it be.  It is our reaction to the situation, not the situation itself that is in our control.  So, let us all forgive ourselves and others AND MOVE ONE!
  4. Not being fully present- This year, I will take it ALL in and I challenge you to do the same. We can no longer sleep walk through our lives.  It is up to us to create the best life possible and to enjoy every single moment of it, the good and the bad so that we can experience the entire journey and know true joy.
  5. Not living your dreams– Here it is folks, right here right now… the moment is NOW to do, be, have, get, WHATEVER it is your heart is calling for.  This is the year, my friends… not tomorrow or next month… TODAY!  So, get busy on those vision boards and start living the BEST LIFE EVER!!